Have you ever heard someone say “oh, he’s such an old soul”?
Usually, it’s in response to a child’s words or actions that are uncharacteristic of their young years.
Take for example the child who gravitates towards the music of their grandparents’ generation, or the youngster who proclaims Santa Claus was created by adults to get children to be good (wow, what an imagination)!
But what do we mean by the term ‘old soul’ when we are speaking from a mystical point of view?
In metaphysical philosophy, the soul is eternal and most souls incarnate at least once. So in a way you could state that we are all old souls.
However, when a child is called an old soul, the term means that the child demonstrates an almost sixth sense of wisdom and understanding; certainly wisdom and understanding far beyond that of their physical experience.
To illustrate what I mean, look at these real life examples from my own family that brought the idea of ‘old souls’ to mind:
1. My extended family was gathered for a family celebration. Dinner time came and we all sat down, cutlery in hand, about to eat when my four-year-old nephew announced:
“Hang on, wait a minute everyone! We need to talk to God before we eat”, and then he proceeded to say grace all by himself. It definitely brought tears to the eyes of a few at the table.
2. My three-year-old niece casually said one day:
“Do you know that when you die, it’s not the end? You come back as a number!”. She then looked over at her baby cousin and said: “Like him. He’s a zero. Grandad was a number three”. It was a very strange thing to hear from her mouth, considering her parents were more atheist than spiritual, and reincarnation was certainly not a topic that had ever been discussed with her.
And then there are some brilliant examples of old soul kids remembering life before birth which Dr Wayne Dyer published on his blog a couple of years back.
Here are my two favorites:
“One night at dinner, our younger foster/adopted son(he was around four years old) started talking at great length about his life “in the stars” and how he had all these brothers and sisters who lived there. He said he’d seen my husband and me from there and tried to get our attention many times but we never could see him, so he decided to be born through his mom so we could find him.
My husband and I were floored to say the least. I’d had a few miscarriages after my first son, so once my younger son told us what he’d seen, I knew his soul had been trying to come in through me even though my body was not able to do it.”
“When my daughter was about three years old, she mentioned in a conversation that she liked it when she was in heaven! I was a little sad that day because she had told me that she wished her daddy was home with us, like other children (we got divorced when she was a newborn).
Then she said, “But that’s okay, because I knew it would be like this.”
I asked her what she meant by that, and she answered, “Mommy, when I was in heaven, I picked you. And I knew we were going to be alone, so that’s okay. Don’t worry, Mommy, I love you so much.”
Comments made by the children in the paragraph above allude to the idea that children believe there is a life prior to birth.
What is really interesting though is this fascinating study (see Bering, J.M. & Bjorklund, D.F. (2004). The natural emergence of reasoning about the afterlife as a developmental regularity) that suggests that many, if not the majority, of children hold this innate belief… in other words, a belief in the afterlife is not acquired through social learning.
If reincarnation is a fact, it could make sense that children are more tuned in to its energy than older people are. Logically, children are closer in time to a previous life, and their minds have not yet absorbed the ideas held by society at large.
I don’t know whether I’ve ‘been here before’ or not, but I do know that the years up until kindergarten were like a constant stream of deja vu moments for me.
It was very confusing, because I had a strong sense there was a central life detail buried deep in my memory, and this memory would tease me by appearing in fleeting flashes – like a dream that’s etched into your subconscious but you can’t quite bring to your mind.
Having an old soul for a child is certainly entertaining.
Be prepared for jaw dropping statements about the nature of things, and the occassional confused look from friends and acquaintances. There is also something quite comforting about your child viewing life as being eternal, as the death question is one that many of us find hard to answer let alone contemplate as a parent.
But what about the other side of the coin? What difficulties do children who are old souls face, and how can their families help smooth these difficulties over?
Well, one issue is the feeling of ‘not fitting in’with their peers. Children who are regarded as old souls tend to be more introverted, introspective and more abstract in their thinking than their counterparts are – perhaps because old souls prefer to ride waves than make them (and only after a considerable amount of time spent contemplating the wave’s very existence).
The first thing to remember though is that every child, at some point in their life, will feel that they do not fit in – whether they are an old soul or not! Mountains out of molehills thou shalt not make!
In this article by Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Patricia Flanagan, Patricia writes that if you are parenting a child who feels like an outsider, the best thing to do is:
“… show your child that he’s accepted and loved for who he is at home. When kids feel consistently accepted for who they are at home, it makes them better able to cope with outside stressors.”
• Encouraging your child to pursue activities they enjoy or particularly excel at. Not only will that help to lift confidence but will also encourage friendships with children they have something in common with.
• Finding books and other media showing children with similar traits. Self-help publishing giant, Hay House, have a number of delightful children’s books* which could help your child feel less alone with their uniqueness.
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• Providing your child with the space and means to express themselves. Let your child lead the way and allow fun to be the operative word.
• Enrolling your child in a Mindfulness for Kids course or Yoga classes. My five year old hyper-energetic son attended a 4 week course in Sydney through Mind Body Energy and the difference it made was profound (think better ability to sleep and process feelings, for example).
“Indigo,” “Crystal” and “Rainbow” children are a special breed of off-spring, so named because of the color of their aura. They are also likely to have certain pre-defined personality traits.
The common denominator between these three child types (known as Star Children) is that they are remarkaby wise beyond their years (definite ‘old souls’) and they are said to have important missions to fulfil on Earth.
Indigo Children were first identified in the 1960s by Nancy Ann Tapp, a metaphysician with a rare form of synesthesia (she saw color in energy fields and ‘tasted’ shapes). The number of Indigo Children started to recede from the late 2000s as the new wave of Star Children appeared on Earth.
Indigo children are said to be sent to Earth with the mission of smashing down old belief systems that no longer serve humanity. For a large scale representation of Indigo children at work, think about the late 1960s hippies and their pro-love / anti-war revolution.
The auras of Indigo Children are said to be indigo blue, which on the chakra color scale indicates high intuition and clairvoyance. Other traits of an Indigo child include:
• Wanting to help the world in a deep way
• A rebellious, warrior spirit
• Headstrong and independent
• Loves to creatively express themselves
• Wavers between low self-esteem and grandiosity
• Easily bored, perhaps even diagnosed with ADD or ADHD
• Sleeping difficulties, insomnia, vivid dreams, lucid dreams
• Has a history of depression
• Prefers deep relationships to casual friendships
• Bonds with plants or animals.
The generation that comes after Indigo children are Crystal children.
Crystal children are so named because of their opalescent aura. Their mission is to build a foundation for a peaceful way of living.
Traits of Crystal children include:
• Very affectionate and spontaneous with their affection
• Filled with creativity and they love to express creatively
• Highly empathetic
• Natural healers
• Animal lovers who gravitate towards vegetarianism (even from an early age)
• Very sensitive to colors, noises, other people’s emotions. Sometimes mistaken for autism.
• Large, penetrating eyes and an intense stare
• Kind to all and quick to forgive.
• Dislike clutter and disorganization
The next generation are the Rainbow children.
Rainbow children are usually the off-spring of Crystal adults and have never incarnated before – making them free from karma.
Their role is to help lift us to a higher state of living – one where choices made by our Higher Selves becomes more the norm. Rainbow children don’t need to do anything specifically to help with this vibrational shift, other than just BE their unique and beautiful selves: by our association with them, we can ourselves become lifted too.
Other traits of Rainbow children:
• They come without Karma as they have never incarnated before. This frees their energy to help serve humanity rather than fixing old wounds.
• They choose to incarnate into stable families, again so their energy is free to help be of service
• They are extremely intuitive or even psychic
• Rainbow children have high energy levels, verging on hyperactivity
• Passionate, energetic and creative – all day, every day
• They like bright colors, fast cars, high energy music
• Very accepting of others and will never judge another
We come into this life as perfect little beings who literally can do nothing but trust the Universe and its servants to provide us with all our needs.
Every lesson a child learns about lack, competition, loss and self-doubt is learned through our environment and the people within it. Sadly, for each new belief we inherited about human frailty we unlearned its counterpart belief, that which is the truth of our Divine origin.
Children who are old souls are constantly hinting at our Divine origin – through their actions, words and and interactions with the Universe.
By studying the world vision through the eyes of an old soul we can appreciate a sense of living with a closer connection to the Divine – which is a huge stepping stone towards inner peace and authentic happiness.
Kate Barton is a Sydney based ‘lightworker’ – a person who intentionally works to bring healing, love and light to the world. A lifelong student of metaphysics Kate also produces Basking In Light, a spiritual lifestyle digital community and online store. Click here to browse our spiritual lifestyle products or come say hello on our Facebook page.
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